No one has any idea how much The Fault In Our Stars has inspired me in many ways. From the book, to the movie down to its soundtrack—everything about it moved me in ways I couldn’t fathom. Even though Augustus-Hazel Grace-lovestory is the kind of love story I don’t want to be apart of, their love story is still the kind of love story I’d happy to watch and read over and over again for one main reason—their story offers a lot of simple life-lessons we, people, often neglect, but shouldn’t. In fact, last night I’ve watched it again together with my siblings; and it still moved the way it moved me the very first time I’ve seen it. So today, I have decided to share to everyone the top three valuable life lessons I’ve learned from the film:
1. To Appreciate my parents more
One of the things the film emphasized was parental love. It was very timely because I was having issues with my folks the first time I saw the film. The story showed how a mother and a father can love her/his child so much. I’ve seen it in both families of Hazel Grace and Augustus—the being emotional of Hazel Grace’s dad; the choice of Hazel Grace’s mum to be strong and positive for everyone in her family; the cry of Augustus mother; and the decision of Augustus’ parents to put inspirational quotes around their humble abode; and the pain they deal with every time they see their own child suffering from cancer. All their actions simply resonate unconditional love. Love that I’ve also witnessed within the four corners of our home, but often neglected. The film made me realise that there’s nothing greater than parental love. So appreciate your parents more. Be grateful to have them in your life. They only want the best for you. To quote Grant Taylor from Facing the Giants: "You just can’t judge your father by his actions and yourself by your intentions. It just doesn’t work that way". Yes, there are moments we don’t meet halfway, but we can’t erase the fact that there are no other people who could love us as much as they do.
2. To be loved deeply is better than to be loved widely
Remember the scene where Hazel Grace got mad because of Augustus’ obsession with being remembered? That particular scene hit me.Hard. Let’s admit it, there’s an Augustus Waters in each one of us, who is also striving to make a dent in the universe. I won’t deny that I’m somehow like him. Honestly, that was my main reason for making this blog. I thought that’s my purpose—to make a difference in the world, to inspire a lot of people and to be remembered. I must admit that there were times I would based my own ability as a blogger by the notes I get—and boy, I barely get one. Thus, I would get upset and thought that no one’s reading my blog because I’m not good enough. I was too focused to be validated by other people and gain more readers, that I tend to overlook the few number of people who approached me personally and tell me that I inspire them. But after watching that scene and hearing Gus’ eulogy for Hazel, I come to realise the difference between being loved widely and being loved deeply. Now, I’m learning not to care about th number of notes or followers I get. I am now more focused on appreciating more the who believe in me and have been supporting me since day one. I’m more than happy to make a dent in someone’s life. As Mother Teresa puts it: "If you can’t feed a hundred people, just feed one".
3. Live in the now
This may sound so cliche but the truth is, life is short, yet oftentimes we live like tomorrow is always promised. We spend so much time worrying, thinking about the future and spending so many hours thinking about what people think of us, that we fail to embrace what’s in front of us. We waste our time on gadgets, computer or video games and on the internet that we tend to forget that the present is the only thing guaranteed. After watching the film, I appreciate life more. I realised how short it is. I appreciate every moment I have with the people I love and experiencing life, because who knows how many more years we all have left. There are people who live in this planet for 70 years, yet feel like they only live for 10 years or less. But there are others who are given the opportunity to only live for 18 years, yet live a life worth telling. So learn to enjoy not only every moment but also every person who loves you and supports you. Enjoy it with pure happiness and courage. We only have one life, make the most of it. Isang beses lang tayo mabubuhay, mabuhay na tayo ng tama! This is A BIG NOTE TO SELF for me!!
There are love stories that can only leave us with a smile and kilig; and there are other love stories that can leave us with so much life lessons that will inspire us to live more, appreciate more and love more in the most beautiful way. The Fault In Our Stars might be a tragic love story but it is a story that will remind us how wonderful it is to be human and to be given the privilege to feel, get hurt, to love and experience life and everything in between. I hope you get a lesson or two from this blogpost. I can go on and add a lot more, but I think these are the main three simple life lessons we often fail to commit to, but shouldn’t.
Have a blessed week ahead of you, folks! :)
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